The Love Generation Still Wants SATISFACTION!

Who would have thought that we, the women of the love generation, would ever have problems being sexually satisfied. We were the first to know and love our bodies and our sexuality, to liberate ourselves with the Pill, to burn our bras, and to follow our dreams into new career and personal possibilities. We baby-boomer babes had so many hopes and expectations, and we demanded fulfillment in everything. We could have it all ... and we definitely wanted it all.

Nowadays, even though we still want it all, we are finding ourselves in need of help in getting it all. Our bodies have changed. Our lives are stressful. Our worlds are not the same. We were pioneers in love and sex, changing mores and redefining taboos. We are again pioneers in love and sex, extending the accepted limitations of what we are supposed to be and do. Single, divorced or widowed, many of us are back in the dating scene through online sites and community organizations. We want our relationships to be fulfilling and satisfying, both emotionally and sexually. Admit it, girls, we’ve always wanted better sex.

Research on Sexual Dysfunction

According to University of Chicago researcher Dr. Edward Laumann’s study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, 43 percent of women suffer with sexual dysfunction, compared to 31 percent of men. Scientific research has given men Viagra to help them function. We women are now looking for a female Viagra to balance things out.

Our female sexual dysfunction is characterized by a lack of desire, arousal or orgasm. According to Cindy Meston, assistant professor of clinical psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, the chief complaint among 85 percent of women is the lack of desire, which affects about one-third of women at some point in life. Dr. Futterman, an assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of California at San Diego, has stated that about 10 percent cannot get turned on, and an estimated 5 percent cannot have orgasms.

Causes of Low Libido in Women

As we have known since the dawn of time, women are more complex creatures than men in most areas, and that includes sex. The causes of low libido, sexual interest and desire in women run the whole range, from simple vaginal dryness to complicated relationship problems.

Medical studies list the following conditions as possible causes of low libido:

1. Emotional conditions
1. General stress
2. Poor body image
3. Fear of pregnancy
4. Relationship problems
5. Anxiety
6. Depression
7. Post-natal depression

Routine/Boredom in the bedroom

1. Physical sexual performance conditions
1. Painful intercourse
2. Recent childbirth and breastfeeding
3. Sexual problems
4. Impotence
5. Vaginal dryness
2. Medical conditions
1. Hormonal conditions
2. Menopause
3. Pregnancy
4. Low testosterone
5. Any medical condition causing fatigue or tiredness

• Drugs
• Illicit drugs
• Medications and oral contraceptives
• Blood pressure medications
• Antidepressants
• Psychiatric drugs

It is important for women to get checked out by their physicians in order to rule out the more dangerous health causes of sexual dysfunction and find out about medical methods to increase a low libido. But we should also experiment, as we always have, with simple and natural possibilities that can provide solutions for us.

Increasing Sexual Pleasure

There are many things that are within our control in the search for more frequent and more pleasurable sexual intercourse. It has always been women’s load to take care of others before taking care of ourselves. Whether it is the husband, children, parents, pets, coworkers, neighbors, or merely the next major world crisis, we are taking care of everything else before we make time for our own interests. Many problems, like financial pressures or personal conflicts, need time and hard work to resolve. But there are other aspects of life that we can and should manage. Think of the small things in your life that you can modify with little effort and time, which can have an immediate and positive impact on your sexuality. These are the ones you must take control of. Here’s a list to get you thinking...

Simple and natural ways to improve your sex drive:

• Increasing your sexuality
  • Lose or gain weight to improve your body image
  • Change hairstyles
  • One new article of clothing that makes you feel desirable
  • Pamper yourself with a spa treatment or pedicure
• Alter the ambient mood
  • New bedsheets
  • Mood music and low lighting
  • Hire a babysitter for the kids and/or parents so you have time for yourself
  • Go to a nice hotel room to get away from home pressures


• Play with marital aids
  • Massage oils
  • Personal vaginal lubricant
  • Adult toys and sex games
  • Clitoral stimulators
  • Adult videos

For a woman, the most important sexual organ is her mind. Better sex is often just a mind game. Modify the things can affect your mind in order to increase your sexuality, your sexual desire, and your sexual pleasure.

One Simple and Natural Sex Aid

Personal lubricants are one of the simplest yet most effective of all marital aids. Also known as “lubes,” these are specialized lubricants that serve to minimize friction in the vagina and clitoris so sexual intercourse is more comfortable and less painful. Some lubricants also have warming ingredients that produce a stimulating heat around the genital area. This helps increase desire and readiness in many women.

One effective sex enhancing lubricant worth trying is Exoris. It is a clear, hormone-free, all-natural gel that helps increase blood flow to the vulva and clitoris to intensify sensations and pleasure within minutes of being applied. The gel has no taste, smell or side effects. It is a simple tool for us when we need the extra help in achieving better sex.

Sexual satisfaction has always been important to us, and it should be something we keep achieving throughout our lives. The solutions are there for us. Take control of your sex life and make it better!